Working Too Hard For Love

You're good at giving other people what they want. You're good at sensing what others need. At work, and outside of work. 

It's exhausting you.

Your true needs are going unfulfilled.

You're working too hard for love. You're feeling lonely, overwhelmed, disconnected, numbed out, or in despair.

As women, it's our default-programming to just serve the needs of others to try to get the love we want....that's how most of us women have been taught: to be givers! And to be sexual objects of others' desire, period.   Add to that the fact that many women have been abused, and this underlying trauma leads to self-destructive behavior, or repeating traumatic patterns in relationships.

Maybe you're playing the role of Perfect Wife or Perfect Partner or Perfect Employee: You're trading your emotional support of Others in order to receive love and admiration.

Or You're trading sex or flirtations for love or attention? For a quick hit of self-esteem?  It's a roller-coaster cycle: You feel your heart drop into your stomach when your self-esteem takes a nose dive afterwards, when eventually the loneliness, the disconnection sets in.

You don't have to sacrifice Your Needs, OR your Dignity for love or admiration. 

I can help you to get your self-love flowing, and your life on track.  To put your life in balance.  Feel whole and connected to your authentic self.  Attract mutual respect.  Create more authentic, mutually supportive and loving relationships. And create healthy habits to replace the unhealthy ones.

 

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With experiential, somatic, embodiment therapies that unite mind, body, and soul, I help women to come to feel that deeper connection to themselves. 

Aside from romantic love, there are so many forms of love to be enjoyed: community, connection to the earth and universal life force, and to your inner resources....

I will help you create those connections. I have tools to share with you and to help you to: 

  • Find your own voice + identify your authentic needs
  • Reverse underlying trauma
  • Set healthy boundaries
  • Follow your joy (discover what that is!)
  • Develop healthy intuition
  •  Attract romantic and sexual interactions and partnerships that are healthy and in alignment with your authentic needs.

Want to feel more authentic Self-love, Dignity, AND  have healthier relationships?

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Gut Feelings

So why do people often refer to intuition as a "gut feeling?": 

Our intuition arises from our connection to our bodies' signals. Our emotions start as physical sensations that arise from the body and then become interpreted by the brain, milliseconds later. Our mind labels that experience, translating it into awareness, often accompanied by a thought. This is a very quick and unconscious process for most people, so how do you know when to trust your gut feelings or know whether your intuition is right? 

Well, your intuition, or gut feelings, are often damaged by stress or trauma, and your intuition is not going to be accurate if you haven't cultivated habits of embodiment, mindfulness, and eating habits that contribute to your overall wellbeing.  

Many people experience anxiety due to gastrointestinal problems, or having ingested too much caffeine. Then the anxiety leads them to eat comfort foods that irritate their digestive system, to drink alcohol to calm down, which aggravates the problem long term.  

And it's a vicious circle, leading to feelings of burnout, chronic fatigue, irritability, more anxiety, and even depression.  Many women are 'used to' tolerating indigestion.  Many more have recurring candida issues, often manifest most obviously vaginally as 'yeast infections'. But candida overgrowth problems start as an imbalance of the flora in the gut. Medications such as antibiotics, most of us know, upset the flora in our gut, so we usually take some probiotic pills to counteract that, in hopes we can ward off a yeast infection, right? But what about our daily eating habits, carbs, sugars, alcohol that feed candida and make it grow out of control? And what about the acidic caffeine, spicy peppers, and other foods full of lectins (anti-nutrients) that are purported to be linked to leaky-gut syndrome and irritable bowel syndrome? If our stomachs are hurting, it is going to be more difficult to maintain our emotionally resiliency. And if we aren't eating the nutrient-rich foods that nourish brain activity, then we're starving our brain of essentials that it needs to repair itself from stress and trauma. Gut health is a factor for many clients that is linked to their dietary habits and imbalances that cause anxiety, or hinder brain repair from stress....and I urge my clients to consult their doctors naturopaths about how to heal the gut....yet it is all connected: 

And it is not necessary to change your diet this moment to start changing your life: 

A session with me can start reversing the effects of stress and trauma immediately: 

I am highly skilled in EXPERIENTIAL METHODS that have been scientifically proven to SOOTHE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM: such as:

You can get relief right away in your first session with me. Although extreme trauma or longstanding issues do require a series of sessions to achieve complete liberation + transformation, 

I have helped most of my clients to get immediate results in reduction of stress, and increased peace and clarity.

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